10 Signs That You Are Dating A Sociopath

If your new romantic interest exhibits all or most of the following behaviors, be careful. He or she might be a sociopath.

1. Charisma and charm. They’re smooth talkers, always have an answer, never miss a beat. They seem to be very exciting.

2. Enormous ego. They act like the smartest, richest or most successful people around. They may actually come out and tell you that.

3. Love bombing. You’re showered with attention and adoration. They want to be with you all the time. They call, text and e-mail constantly.

4. Jekyll and Hyde personality. One minute they love you; the next minute they hate you. Their personality changes like flipping a switch.

5. Blame others. Nothing is ever their fault. They always have an excuse. Someone else causes their problems.

6. Lies and gaps in the story. You ask questions, and the answers are vague. They tell stupid lies. They tell outrageous lies. They lie when they’d make out better telling the truth.

7. Intense eye contact. Call it the predatory stare. If you get a chill down your spine when they look at you, pay attention.

8. Move fast. They quickly proclaim that you’re their true love and soul mate. They want to move in together or get married quickly.

9. Pity play. They appeal to your sympathy. They want you to feel sorry for their abusive childhood, psychotic ex, incurable disease or financial setbacks.

10. Sexual magnetism. If you feel intense attraction, if your physical relationship is unbelievable, it may be their excess testosterone.


12 thoughts on “10 Signs That You Are Dating A Sociopath

  1. Wow GE! #’s 1,3,4,5 & 7 describe an ex-boyfriend from a long time ago. And, I felt No.10 big time. Guess I dodged what could have been a fatal bullet! I knew something wasn’t right but couldn’t put a label on it. It took a long time for me to call it quits for good. Sounds like he’s textbook Sociopath.

    • My Ex is ALL of these, except #3! I wished someone had given me this list before I married the liar!!!!

      Oh well, the good thing is, he is no longer in my life which means he can no longer hurt me with his lies and deceit.


      • That is SO true! When he does enter my thoughts, it’s usually because I’ll remember a conversation we had, where he told me something which I now know is a lie but at the time, I bought it hook, line and sinker. 😐

        I wish I could sit him down and ask him, “Why did you lie to me? Why did you deceive me? Why didn’t you tell me the truth as to why you wanted a divorce?” Unfortunately, I will never receive answers. My therapist continually reminds me that pathological narcissists are incapable of telling the truth.

        Once I let go of the fact I will never receive honest answers from him, I will be free of thinking of him. In the meantime, I bask in the knowledge of all his dirty little secrets. 🙂

      • It’s a slow, difficult and painful process. I can tell you though, based on my experience, that you will, over time, notice that those thoughts show up less and less. I remember that one day, during what I called, “my detoxification period”, I was getting ready to go to sleep. It suddenly occurred to me that I hadn’t thought about “him” all day. That was a milestone and a turning point for me. All of the thoughts, emotions, etc. that you are experiencing now are NORMAL. It will get better. You already know that!

  2. Number 3 is really important. If people are in love, they let the other person be themself, and trust. Trust is key. If someone is constantly demanding attention and resents your time with others, that is a very bad sign. It not only shows lack of trust, but lack of trustworthiness. Yes, be in love. But the lover should cherish your desire to be with friends and have your own life too.

    • Here again, I completely agree with you. We all need to be on our own at times. It’s not healthy to always be with the person we are in a relationship with. My Ex is everything but #3. I wish someone had given me this list 13 years ago when I was only dating my ex. I saw and ignore soooooooooo many red flags. I won’t make that mistake again. Ha-Ha!

      Are you officially moved into your new home? I love moving into new homes and getting to know a house, especially old homes, like the one I’m living in now. 🙂

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